Am I asking for it?

This picture has absolutely nothing to do with this post, it's just an example of wearing provocative(ish) clothing.

This post isn't my usual beauty related post but it's something that I've seen floating about the internet quite a lot recently and that I wanted to address. I don't know if this is a recent 'trend' or if I only just started reading about it but a lot of people have been talking about rape recently, specifically about the way girls dress and whether or not it provokes men to rape them. The other day I was on facebook and saw a photo that one of my friends had shared, of a girl wearing shorts and a sports bra. In the description, the girl talked about the judgement she received when she went to the grocery store in said outfit, namely the comments along the lines of 'She's asking to be raped'. She then said that when she was raped, she was wearing a jumper and trackies. Now I don't have a problem with this post, I think it was brilliant and can show people that what you wear doesn't really matter, but some of the comments really shocked me. People said that by wearing a 'skimpy' outfit, this girl was asking to be raped. One comment actually said "You may not be a slut, but you're wearing her uniform", which really annoyed me because since when is it not acceptable to wear exercise clothing in the summer?
I personally like to dress in quite revealing clothes sometimes. I like to wear short shorts and crop tops because I work hard for my body and I'm proud of it. I do get a lot of attention from this but there's not much I can do about that because I am willingly provoking it, and I do enjoy the attention (with a few exceptions). The reason I wear these clothes is because it gives me confidence, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. This doesn't mean that I'm asking to be raped. Yes I am essentially asking to be looked at, but that does not give anyone the right to force themselves on me. And you know what? I have never been sexually harassed in my life! And that's because rape isn't about looking 'easy' and dressing provocatively, it's about having power over someone else. Who do you think is more likely to be raped- the girl in a mini skirt who is confidently walking down the street or the girl hiding underneath her hoodie?
I guess my point is that we need to stop 'slut-shaming' and we most certainly need to stop providing excuses for rapists. No girl is asking to be raped, and we should all be allowed to wear whatever we want. It's so incredibly difficult for a girl to come forward after being raped, and 'But what were you wearing?' definitely shouldn't be the first question that is asked. All victims of rape are exactly that- victims. It doesn't matter what you were wearing or that you were drunk or that maybe you even kissed the guy and then changed your mind- rape is never okay and it's never provoked.

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